I am a cranky, crotchety, person.
Yesterday I heard on the radio commentary from director Rob Reiner. Reiner is an awesome advocate, and I respect him. He is going to make a movie about the Prop. 8 trial, which is fantastic because the videos of the trial were blocked to the public. (I pieced through some transcripts here, hereand here.)
Yesterday, the commentator said something about how Reiner felt gay marriage was the last great piece of the civil rights puzzle. I am not sure about the context of which Reiner said it, but I guess any way you slice it, it isn't true.
Is gay marriage an important part of the civil rights battle? Absolutely? But I don't know why people are in a rush to frame it as the last great civil rights battle.
We had an excellent guest speaker today about LGBT bullying and she also presented some arguments that made me wince. For example, she said that parents would never give a child a hard time about the child's race, but they would give their child a hard time about their sexuality, it is hte oly thing parents bully their kids, too, on. Or that parents never tell girls they can't do something because they are a girl (like a scientist) but do tell boys they can't do something because they are boys (like a cosmetologist)
I could just feel my blood pressure rising because these things all seem like such half truths.
The denial of right to marry for two individuals simply because they share a gender is sexist, heteroist, and an undeniable civil rights violation.
Parents do very frequently bully their own children for being gay or otherwise not gender conforming.
Parents do encourage their daughters to pursue certain traditionally male only occupations (like engineering) but do not encourage their sons to pursue traditionally female occupations.
But you can't say that gay marriage is the last civil rights battle. Even just looking at circumscribed LGBTQ issues alone we see intersections of other issues like immigration, race, class, or the criminal justice system.
You can't say something like parents don't bully their kids about their race. Talk to some transnational or transracial adoptees. Talk to some families about their own internalized racism or self loathing.
You can't say that parents don't tell girls they "can't do things because they are girls." I mean, come the frak on.
Sometimes I think the LGBTQ advocacy movement gets so caught up in the very glaring disparities they face in terms of sexual orientation, that it becomes the only oppression in their minds. Intersectionality doesn't factor in.
So there is that LGBTQ girl, in an undocumented family, who faces internalized racism, and genderism. And the movement doesn't see her.
Well, I guess you can say those things. But I will cringe the entire time when you say them.
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